My friend told me about one of her colleagues in office who didn’t get to go to their company trip just because his wife forbade him to go. This guy is a general manager – he oversees the entire office’s operation, has 20 people working under him and yet, he turns into a mouse, seeking for “permission” before going for a company’s trip? Hello?
It’s really befuddling to know there is still such bullshit in this era.
When he went overseas for assignment, she would be calling every hour to check on him. His colleague or subordinate would listen to his meaningless conversation.
“Have you eaten? Why you haven’t eaten?”
In a noisy restaurant
“Why is it so noisy? How come there’s a woman’s voice? I don’t believe she’s a waitress! I demand to speak to your colleague this instant!”
In the hotel room
“Why is it so quiet now? I don’t believe you are in the hotel room! I want to speak to your colleague NOW!”
Seriously?
How could you even live like this? I bet your own parents are not even 10% of your wife’s possessiveness! (not to mention such annoying bitch!)
I can’t blame you if you like it so much to be controlled but for others looking at your situation, it’s indeed vomit inducing to have such wife or husband or partner. If one doesn’t believe in marriage (Yes.. get real!), then there’s no point of being married.
I remember once, I took a friend for a hair cut and somehow our appointment ran late because the whole salon was packed, despite us making an appointment before hand. And my hair – being as obstinate as myself, refused to let its blackness turned to light brown hence, took up most of the time.
Her husband, fuming mad, called her repetitively every 5 minutes and demanded her to go home that instant. She couldn’t because I was driving and, she was also still getting her hair done.
After (demeaning and threatening – you have no freaking idea!) numerous phone calls again and again, her husband came to the hair salon to pick her up – with her hair still dripping wet, she threw some money at the cashier, apologizing profusely to me and bolted! Our hairstylists were all as speechless as I was.
Her husband said a woman should not be going home so late (it was only 9.30 pm) and should not walk alone in the car park by herself (Hello? I am with her? And guess what? Since you insist on taking her home – I am also walking alone in the car park and so am I not a woman??).
You would have guessed it. I don’t go out with her anymore. I didn’t want to be the first domino tablet in breaking her marriage up when it’s already blatantly obvious that both of them have doomed marital issues.
When you build your marriage on such vulnerable foundation called lack of trust, your marriage is definitely heading to the rocks. There’s no point tying down someone based on your own insecurities and make life a living hell for your “loved” ones. It’s simply too much to have a life revolving around your own insecurities. Your loved ones simply don’t deserve to live like this.
May 22, 2011 at 2:55 pm |
totally agree! i can’t stand over-possessive partners! my ex would make excuses that he’s worried for my safety, which was why he kept calling me incessantly to check on me. bullshit lar… i was fine before i meet u, why would i not be fine now? even my parents don’t check up on me like that! gave him the boot pretty quickly… LOL!
May 22, 2011 at 7:14 pm |
Wah.. you are damn lucky to come out from such relationship because seriously, if they can’t even behave now, how on earth are they going to behave when they become your other half, having children, etc? Anybody who thinks it’s “cute” to have people “fussing” over them (some are really delusional and think obsession is love), well, they asked for it.
May 23, 2011 at 6:48 pm |
Possessive partners are all consuming…. some people lose their basic identities… to fit into the ‘Stepford Wifes’ (hubby?) role …. I know some people who don’t dare to have short hair coz their BF/hubby won’t approve … who won’t laugh out loud lest it’s not lady like … etc…. I don’t get it… Why do some people accept it as their mission in life to conform???? We need more examples like Sue…. who stand up for their own rights!
May 23, 2011 at 10:01 pm |
Ya, I agree. It’s emotionally and psychological draining to have people dictating when you get up, sit down and even go to toilet. I guess such people – being controlled by insecure people are insecure themselves at some point of their lives.. they need to buck up and stand for what they believe in, rather than have mentality of a herd.
May 24, 2011 at 3:19 pm |
I haven’t experienced having a possessive partner. I’m trying to think how it feels like right now. But I’m sure I’d be annoyed too if someone would call me every 5 minutes, and demand that I give a blow by blow account of my every movement.
May 24, 2011 at 8:07 pm |
renxkyoko: You better pray that you don’t have to go through such experience!! Not only you will be annoyed with the every 5 minutes call – the people surrounding you too. I remember there was once also, we went out and this wife of this person kept on calling every 10 minutes and kept saying, she’s sick at home, blah blah blah.. we were like 200 km away from town and what? She expects her husband to dump all of us and drives back to town to send her to clinic? EAT SHIT!
July 5, 2011 at 10:32 am |
I am so freaking glad all these psychotic episodes are over for me now. Now he doesn’t dare to give me that shit. Cos now I will bomb him kau-kau if he does that again. Feels so right and so great to let him have a taste of his own meds.
That’s one of the episodes I am deeply sorry about having involving you. I feel so bad to embarrass you like tat. But, thanks for still being a friend.
July 5, 2011 at 10:41 pm |
Hope things are turning out to be alright for you from this time on.