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March 11, 2014

MH370

I think everyone in the nation and the world is mourning for the disappeared plane MH370. It’s befuddling right? To have a huge steel bird disappeared into thin air, just like that. More than 60 hours have passed and not even a sign of the whereabout of the plane. My friends and I had a discussion on some conspiracy theory.. anyway, we surely hope that the plane landed somewhere safe.. and everyone on board is alive and kicking… we are all praying for miracles.

Personal Tax

Was pleasantly surprised to see that for those earning below Rm96,000 would be entitled to additional RM2,000 rebate! I didn’t know till a friend told me yesterday she submitted her personal tax online. Haha! Not a good thing to be happy about though.. wish I could earn more than 96k per year.

Obsessed

A friend of mine is rather obsessed with her religion that she and husband connect almost anything of daily happenings with God. I know, it’s good to have someone to look up to (God – according to Matthew McConaughey in his Oscar acceptance speech!) but.. don’t you think if you mention God far too many times.. it seems that you would appear somewhat deranged. With all due respect, I think it’s good that you are excited over your God but I think it’s just a matter of courtesy to keep things to yourself.

True Detectives

I watched the finale of True Detectives last night. I guess now I understand why Matthew McConaughey and Woody Harrelson will not be in the series next season. I guess it’s a really good closure for both cop buddies – to retire peacefully! Unlike some series – Supernatural… which I stopped watching after Season 5 – I think it’s sometimes good to keep the suspense at its height and retiring at the top.. rather than having things going on and on till we get lost and don’t even understand the point of dragging the show. Like Breaking Bad too.. it went out with a bang with Walter White’s glorious death in the end – keep his spirits alive and his expectations real!

True Detectives and Breaking Bad – must watch!

To Love Is To Risk

February 19, 2014

I have a friend confiding in me that she thinks a guy is interested in her. The catch is, the guy already has a girlfriend but she’s living abroad. The guy told my friend that he’s been having problems with his girlfriend and not sure if he should break it off. She on the other hand has been supportive and lending a listening ear to this guy.

They got along pretty well and started seeing each other. So after a few months of dining and wining, she finally mustered up the courage to ask him where is their "relationship" heading to? Is he going to break up with the girlfriend finally? Or does he has feelings for her as much as she has for him? The guy just kept quiet and didn’t want to comment. So she just let the matter go.. and they continue to see each other.

Last Friday, he asked her out on Valentine’s Day and even booked a table for two at a nice. fancy restaurant. She was telling me – this is it! He’s telling me that he is choosing me!

I asked her how did she know?

She said excitedly, "Isn’t it obvious? It’s Valentine’s Day! And he chose to spend it with me!"

I shook my head and sighed sadly.

"Sorry, my dear. It doesn’t mean he chose to spend the Valentine’s Day with you… he just doesn’t want to be alone on Valentine’s Day. His girlfriend is overseas. So he’s alone.. and you happen to be around."

Talking about being a wet blanket.

This is a case of having a cake and eat it at the same time.

Of course, I hope that the guy would break off with his girlfriend and chooses to be with my friend, whom I think is a fabulous person. Unfortunately, I was right. The conversation during the supposedly romantic dinner was dry and normal, just like two friends talking about the weather.

I am truly sad for her. I told her, she probably needs to enjoy it while it last. Since he didn’t mention about giving up the girlfriend.. and he’s a foreigner after all.. probably after his stint of work here, he would probably move back to his own country… how are you going to take it then? Are you going to uproot yourself to go with him to prove that you love him? I think you have done whatever you could. You have laid open your heart and soul. It’s up to him to pick them up. Or better still, go find someone else who doesn’t make you an optional choice.

*I don’t know why but this song from Air Supply kept playing in my head now*

"I can wait forever
If you say you’ll be there too
I can wait forever if you will
I know it’s worth it all, to spend my life alone with you"

Love indeed is a tricky thing. If you don’t take risk, you don’t gain. Sometimes it’s too risky you get yourself all bruised and battered. Sometimes some risks are worth to take. I guess it’s better for you to at least experience love and hopefully, love would triumph in the end rather than folding your arms and rejecting chances to embrace it.

“To love is to risk not being loved in return.
To hope is to risk pain.
To try is to risk failure,
but risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.”
- Unknown

Chivalry?

January 9, 2014

I was watching the last episode of HBO Girls Season 2 and was almost in tears when Adam ran half naked across a few blocks, while holding onto facetime with the OCD inflicted Hannah, almost got knocked down by a car, took the subway, ran upstairs to her apartment, Hannah refusing to open the door, barged down the door and swept her off in his embrace. Auww…………. I felt both happy and heart breaking at the same time.

I related this to a friend and she said, it would be nice if Malaysian guys would do that.

I remember my friend told me why she knew that she would marry her then boyfriend. She was having a really bad stomach cramps at work when he called. So he just dropped everything he did, took the train and walked 2 km in the rain to her office to get her home.

Then another case, my friend’s boyfriend. When we were freshly out from Form 5… aged 17… the guy came to my house to accompany me home together with my friend. the 3 of us took bus home. Then, he showed off his skills at playing the piano.

He said he learned to play by the ear.. he played a song which he said he written himself. Not sure if he’s bullshitting but in a 17 year old’s mind, this was probably the most impressionable act. It even made me, the ice queen’s knees buckled.

Then he walked my friend home – about 20 minutes walk from my house. When he was about to go home, it was already 12 am and there was no more bus service. Since it was too expensive to travel by cab and to be exact, he was also poor because we were all students. He actually walked home.. from Selayang to Sg Wang area where he stays..

The next day, he was limping when he appeared at my friend’s college to pick her up to accompany her home.. back to Selayang…..

I was in college and I think a guy was *interested in me. He was my study mate. We both spent every night, studying together, accompanied by Patrick Teoh’s horror stories. I had to translate everything into Cantonese for him because his English is not so good..

One day, it was raining heavily and the place we used to sit – which was behind our rented house renovated to fit in long stretch of study table.. The rain was torrential so it splashed into our tables from the high windows. I ran behind the house, climbed onto the table to close the windows. (That time, I was still small sized lah. LOL) He actually dropped everything he was doing in front of the house and ran to the back. He ordered me to get down before I hurt myself and he closed the windows for me. He told me in future, let the man do all these "heavy duty work".

And who said, chivalry is dead?cleardot.gif

*not only this.. but there were instances he made some chicken essence for me coz I was studying late and even bought me some food and forced me to eat them because he didn’t want me to get gastric due to my "strict" diet. Hope I am not perasan lah! Haha. Gawd.. I miss that guy!

Making Amends

December 16, 2013

Had quite some fun the past few weeks hanging out with some friends. Some of them, I haven’t met them for over a decade! Some will be meeting for the first time! Some are quite regular but since I was in some hermit state for a period of time… (actually more like lazy, feeling somewhat depressed and unmotivated or simply I just hate to drive!).. I think I am beginning to lose all my friends if I don’t take initiative to get my lazy ass out from the house beyond Facebook or Whatsapp.

The friend that I met after more than a decade of absence, came back from Netherlands to bring her mom to the hospital for a knee surgery. Well, we talked about all sorts of things. I thought we would run out of topics to talk but then, we found out that both of us are actually quite like minded in most things. So, our chats were long and meaningful. Try to squeeze in a decade of no communication or information, you get the picture. Really talk till the "chicken pecked also won’t break". LOL!

One thing we discussed is on making amends. I guess both of us are rather bad tempered and we would usually make decisions when we were angry (big mistakes!) and somehow ended, regretting them. The one thing that we regretted is the friendships that we lost.

She looked back and thought of a friend that she burnt the bridges at the height of some petty arguments and gossips. If she could turn back time, she would have investigated things properly before pointing the finger at her. Now, she realized perhaps, the girl is a victim of the petty gossips.

I could relate to her friend. I was a victim of malicious lies but luckily, I took it in my stride. I feel that if a friend thinks so little of you, it’s best not to continue the friendship. Friends should give you the benefit of the doubt. If there’s some misunderstanding or if you feel the friendship is worth to salvage, one should take initiative to clear things up instead of letting the matter fester and finally, blown out of proportions and ending at point of no return.

She hoped to get back in touch with the friend and would like to apologize. I guess both of us are somewhat mellowed down very much since we are aging. LOL!

So do you have a friend that you have wronged or somehow your friendship just fizzle out that you wish to make amends with? Why not start today? Otherwise, some friendships are meant to be broken. If either of you feel that the friendship somehow energy consuming to keep up – emotionally and physically aka toxic friends, it’s best to part ways.

Health Scare

December 13, 2013

My mom’s been feeling under the weather since October. When we were in Hat Yai, we received a message saying that my mom’s been vomiting and having diarrhea so my cousins helped to send her to the clinic and hospital to make sure she’s okay. But as obstinate as she is, she refused to rest more as advised by doctor and kept going about doing housework as usual.

Then, she has bouts of fatigue once awhile. She would be energetic in the morning and somehow, towards the afternoon, it was as if someone hit the snooze button in her body, she would feel weak and sleepy.

When we got back, my sis pestered her to go get her blood screen but she refused. Old people’s mentality. They just refused to "waste money". So after weeks of coaxing and pestering, mom finally relented when my sis said, "It’s free one! My office will bear the costs!" Then only she followed my sis to the clinic.

On Wednesday, the blood test came out so I went with my sister to the clinic to see the doctor. The doctor said, during her previous visit, he wrote her a letter to go to Selayang Hospital to have her liver scanned. Did she do that? My cousins did informed us on the dengue test. She didn’t contracted dengue but there was no scanning involved. So our doctor advised us to bring her to the clinic the next day to get her liver checked.

The next day, I took her to the clinic to have her liver checked. Also the cause of her fatigue was due to over medication. It seems, the govt clinic gave her a prescription which reduces her potassium level greatly and hence, the lethargy!

We also found that, her liver is still enlarged. It has not improved since the last visit end of October. Due to the urgency of this matter and her procrastination, I decided to bring her to a private hospital to get her ultrasound done there and then. We were lucky that we managed to secure an appointment at KPJ Tawakal hospital at the very last minute.

We reached the hospital at 3.05 pm for our appointment at 3.40 pm. We waited for a bit till about 4.15 pm to get her liver scanned. As the technician was scanning her, I took a look at her liver and was kinda alarmed that the technician highlighting certain parts of her liver, which looked a little menacing. As if this was not enough to scare the shit outta me, she went inside to consult the doctor with the scans and told my mom to wait for her.

After awhile, the technician came out and rescan my mom’s abdomen. The doctor also came out shortly and started to give instructions to the technician and both of them were starring at the liver scans, then the doctor instructed the technician to conduct a thorough scan on her pancreas as well as her gall bladder.

The technician didn’t say anything and told us to wait outside for doctor’s report. I understand that, when we do ultrasound, they will only generate a report for us and, we still need to get the report back to our own clinic to get it decipher. Since we just drop by to get an ultrasound scan and didn’t see their panel doctors at their outpatient clinic, we have to go back to our own family doctor.

As we were waiting for the report, my mom already turned pale as she too was worried about the scan. I kept my fingers crossed and said a silent prayer in my heart.

When her name was called and I walked over to the reception counter to collect the report and made payment, I intensified the silent prayer in my heart. "Please God! Please!!"

It costs only RM100 – which is a pleasant surprise! So it’s better to pay a bit rather than having to wait for hours at a government hospital! I quickly opened the envelop and read the results there and then!

"Enlarged fatty liver. No abnormally. Gall bladder and pancreas normal"

It’s like music to my ears!

Then I could see colors returning to my mom’s face when I told her, "Boh Su!"

On our way home, I nagged and lectured her throughout the drive home to take care of herself, eat less fattening food and rest more.

PS. Mom is now on Legalon 140mg. After 3 months, she will need to go for another blood screening to ensure her liver is functioning well.


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