Last month, my cousins went back to Kuala Sepetang to attend a wake. A distance relative’s daughter passed away from cancer. She was the eldest daughter of the family and she was unmarried. The parents loved her very much because she took the responsibility as the eldest sister to work and bring home the bacon to ease the parents’ burden. All her life, she’s been working really hard to ensure her siblings have to enough to eat and go to school while she neglected her own health and affairs.
Her younger brother got married a few years back and is blessed with two daughters. The brother always wanted a son. So when the wife was pregnant with the third child, the eldest sister promised to help with the newborn, she could even become her godmother. But somehow, fate took the upper hand, and took her life away instead.
The wife gave birth to another baby daughter, much to the husband’s dismay. He loathed the daughter and kept asking if anybody would want to keep the baby as he doesn’t want a daughter and he wants a son badly.
Honestly, I don’t know what is wrong with this idiotic fella. This is the new era. I think daughters would be able to take care of their parents better than sons. No offense to the guy readers out there. If you observe around you, most guys who got married would move away from their parents because pressure from wives, who prefer not to live with their husband’s parents, especially mother-in-laws. I guess they have this stereotyped mentality that all mother-in-laws are from hell. Although there were many cases MILs can be a real pain in the ass, they must always remember, where their husbands came from. Yes – from your mother in law’s vagina, whether you like it or not!
Ok! Before I get carried away discussing this topic which might burst a blood vein in my brain.. I better not deviate.
So, back to the story of the unwanted baby. The father (who is also some sort of our distant relative) asked us if we would want to adopt the baby. The baby is really cute, gorgeous even! She is perfect with no handicap. Honestly, all of us are tempted to keep the baby, especially when we are already in our late 30s and yet to have a family of our own. I thought of the baby constantly and felt really sad for her. Why would anyone want to part with their own flesh and blood is beyond me. Even her own siblings who are in primary school detest the baby because of their own parents’ rejection. The two sisters also agreed to give the baby sister away because they refused to help to take care of the baby!
A far cry from what my family would do. My uncle lost his father when his sister was born. His mother threw out the baby girl in the dumpster right after birth because she blamed the child for taking away the husband’s life. I don’t remember how did the husband die, but the innocent child was blamed for his death. The mother claimed that the baby is a bad omen which caused her husband’s death.
My uncle – being about six years old that time, ran to the garbage bin to retrieve his sister. He nursed the baby sister together with his brother and kept her alive. I don’t know where he put his sister to bed at night but miraculously, the sister survived. She is probably in her 60s now and my uncle is already in his 70s.
I am saddened by the thought of this relative’s feudal mentality. I am very tempted to adopt the baby myself but I am not too sure if I could handle the responsibility of being a mother. Being a mother scares me. If this really meant to happen in my life, I pray for God’s guidance.